I love your books, your newsletter and your unabashed candor! I recently heard/read recently someone express your Rule #2 in a wonderfully succinct way:
I hate to be that guy, but um, technically, the phrase “neurodiversity issues” isn’t going to fly with some of the more pedantic folks in the neurodivergent community. It literally sounds like you mean “people who have issues with diversity, particularly neurodiversity.” I know that’s not what you mean. What you mean is “neurodivergent people.”
There are a bunch of people who get confused and think neurodivergent is a derogatory term. But, I assure you, as somebody who learned it from the person who coined the term, Kassiane Asumasu, at an ASAN meeting. (Like, in the room learned it from Kassiane.)
But I know what you mean and I love what you do. And I’m going to own bringing my baggage from having to explain this to people on Threads every other day. It’s exhausting.
(But, in settled Threada internet law, “neurospicy” is out. Many non-white, non-cis and non-straight neurodivergent people already get marginalized by having the word “spicy” applied to them and feel super cringey about white cis straight neurodivergent people putting on the word like it’s a party hat.)
Also, fuck. My comment was all about subtext, when the communication rule in question is "No Subtext."
Because, the other side of the neuro-terminology coin is that lots of neurodivergent people have communication difficulties that may lead us to misspeak words with similar meanings (or opposite meanings, because whatever direction I mean comes out "right" even if it's really left). So, honestly, I don't get bent about this one, personally. This is strictly to forewarn you about possible blowback from aspie supremacist trolls.
I love your books, your newsletter and your unabashed candor! I recently heard/read recently someone express your Rule #2 in a wonderfully succinct way:
"Any un-communicated desire is a secret."
Fully stealing that now!!!
I hate to be that guy, but um, technically, the phrase “neurodiversity issues” isn’t going to fly with some of the more pedantic folks in the neurodivergent community. It literally sounds like you mean “people who have issues with diversity, particularly neurodiversity.” I know that’s not what you mean. What you mean is “neurodivergent people.”
There are a bunch of people who get confused and think neurodivergent is a derogatory term. But, I assure you, as somebody who learned it from the person who coined the term, Kassiane Asumasu, at an ASAN meeting. (Like, in the room learned it from Kassiane.)
But I know what you mean and I love what you do. And I’m going to own bringing my baggage from having to explain this to people on Threads every other day. It’s exhausting.
(But, in settled Threada internet law, “neurospicy” is out. Many non-white, non-cis and non-straight neurodivergent people already get marginalized by having the word “spicy” applied to them and feel super cringey about white cis straight neurodivergent people putting on the word like it’s a party hat.)
Good note! I’ll make sure Kandi sees it 😉
Also, fuck. My comment was all about subtext, when the communication rule in question is "No Subtext."
Because, the other side of the neuro-terminology coin is that lots of neurodivergent people have communication difficulties that may lead us to misspeak words with similar meanings (or opposite meanings, because whatever direction I mean comes out "right" even if it's really left). So, honestly, I don't get bent about this one, personally. This is strictly to forewarn you about possible blowback from aspie supremacist trolls.